🌙 BLOG POST #10 — Building a Soft Life After Years of Survival

Published on December 31, 2025 at 11:59 PM

For most of my life, I was surviving.

Surviving loss.
Surviving grief.
Surviving responsibility.
Surviving motherhood.

Survival teaches you how to endure — but it doesn’t teach you how to rest.

 

✨ Letting Go of Who I Thought I’d Be by 30

I used to carry a very specific image of who I thought I’d be by 30.

More accomplished.
More certain.
More put together.

But life didn’t follow that plan.

And instead of fighting that reality, I’m finally learning to release it.

I don’t need to become the version of myself I imagined years ago.
I need to honor the version that survived.

 

✨ Choosing Peace Over Pressure

For years, I chased happiness the way people chase goals — with pressure, expectations, and timelines.

But happiness always felt just out of reach.

Peace feels different.

Peace is quieter.
Slower.
Softer.

At this stage of my life, I want peace more

 

✨ Making a Home That Feels Like Mine

I’m learning that home isn’t about aesthetics.

It’s about energy.

It’s about warmth.
Calm.
Familiarity.
Softness.

It’s a place where my kids can feel regulated.
Where I can breathe.
Where survival mode isn’t the default.

 

✨ Becoming a Person Again

For a long time, I existed as roles.

Mom.
Wife.
Caregiver.
Protector.

Now, I’m allowing myself to be a person again.

A person with interests.
A person with softness.
A person who values peace.

That shift feels radical — and deeply healing.

 

✨ Final Thought

I’m not chasing a big, impressive life.

I’m building a life that feels good to live in.

Even if it’s quiet.
Even if it’s simple.
Even if it looks different than I imagined.

I’ve survived enough.

Now I’m choosing softness.

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